What is Parts Work?

Do you ever feel like you are two minds about something? Do you ever wish you could make a change but can’t seem to do it? Do you think other people are to blame for why your life is less than fulfilling?

Me too. As much as I’d love to be clear and aware all the time, I’m not. Parts work is the single most powerful tool I’ve found to help me get back to an experience of decisiveness, effectiveness, and power. It’s a wonderful way to make positive, lasting change.

Parts work can work for you too. It can allow you to access your own inner cast of characters and to create more harmony in your mind, body, spirit, and emotions. It can help you create clarity out of chaos. Sound too good to be true? It’s not. But don’t take my word for it, contact me and get started with your free consultation today.

Parts work is one of my favorite tools to use with my clients – whether they are coming to me for help with parenting, relationships, self-care, or business. I work in the style of Inner Empathy.

Listening to your parts with empathy and compassion is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. You see, each emotion you have and each strategy or thought you have can be related to like a part or a person. You can invite that part in to talk with you, to share what’s true for it and to be heard without needing to fix, change, figure out, or even understand that part. The part doesn’t need to make sense of defend it’s position. When we do the parts work, we are setting the intention to welcome that part and just listen.

And the most amazing healing often happens. When we listen without agenda for change, spontaneous self-correction can arise. The parts spontaneously realize there can be other ways of getting their needs met. They listen to one another and find that they don’t need to waste energy defending or attacking each other.

Each session with me is backed by my money back guarantee. So there’s nothing to lose, ever. Well, you might lose some of your doubt, confusion, and ineffectiveness. But I bet you’re willing to risk it!

Remaking Holiday Traditions = More Meaning

Do you wish the holiday season was more meaningful? Fulfilling rather than just filling you up with sweets, extra pounds, and extra things to do?

Me too.

So I’m beginning to shift my holiday celebrations to highlight the values that are important to me and letting go of traditions that don’t support my values. Here are some ways that’s unfolding. I encourage you to try some of these ideas and to make up your own. Change is often hard. If you want help, let me know (the form on the left is a good way to reach out). And if you want emergency support on Christmas Day, I have a few spots left where I’m willing to be on-call to support you making the best parenting choices for you and your family on what is, often, a challenging day.

  • Celebrate Solstice the shortest daylight hours of the year and the return of the lengthening days. Keep an all night vigil from dark til dawn (about 4:30pm – 7:30am). Make vision boards with big pieces of paper and cutouts from magazines and calendars.
  • Build something really cool. Decide to pool your family’s resources to do something that will benefit all of you much longer into the year(s).
  • Simplify Gift Giving. Draw names from a hat so that each person in the family has one other person to buy or make a present for. That way everyone doesn’t get something small for everyone but can focus their attention on making or buying something more meaningful for one person.
  • Giving Gifts Gifts are what’s expected by many of our family and friends. Yet it can be great to pause and ask “What am I hoping this gift will do?” What need will it meet within you and for the person you’re giving it to? Are there other ways to get those need met? Is there a lower cost strategy both for your wallet and the environment? Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. For instance, if you hope to show someone they are important to you, consider spending time with them in a meaningful way and telling them how you feel about them.
  • How much does it really cost? Once you’ve decided to buy a gift, educate yourself about where and how the items you or your children want are made. Where is the factory? Where are the raw materials sourced? What are the conditions like for the workers? What happens to it after you’re done? How long will it last?

Some other fun ideas are to:

  • Eat local foods.
  • Exchange words of gratitude.
  • Wrestle with Affection
  • Play games of connection and cooperation
  • Offer food to someone in need.

Happy Holidays!

Kassandra Brown, parent coach