Winter Inspiration for Aspiring Parent Coaches

Do you ever think that getting paid for being a parent coach means you’re greedy? Do you ever think it would be more good, spiritual, or nice to offer your services for free? I’ve had those thoughts too. But the truth of the matter is that you will spend most of your waking hours doing whatever it is you do for money. If you use that time to be a parent coach you are having a much bigger positive impact on the world (and yourself) than if you do some other work that is less values aligned while giving away your parenting coaching “on the side”. So join me now in taking your business to the next level and Becoming a Successful Parent Coach.

Ready? Sign up below for a free strategy session for becoming a successful parent coach. The focus is all on you, it really is free. Once I know I can help you and you want to work with me, then we’ll explore how we can work together and not a moment before.

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Becoming a Successful Parent Coach

Are you ready to:

  • Attract your ideal clients? And not just any clients, the ones who make your work feel like the best play ever?
  • Coach those ideal clients to family harmony, confidence in their parenting, and clarity around their values and boundaries?
  • Tune up your inner-game to handle your success and allow it to uplevel your whole life?

Then “Becoming a Successful Parent Coach” may be just the right fit for you.

Reach out now to schedule your free consultation to find out. 

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Harvesting Good Food and Good Memories

kaylyn watering at rrFor my birthday, wanted to keep it simple, celebrate with my family, and give thanks for the abundant support I receive in so many areas.   I went to a pick your own working farm and kid-exploring paradise.

It was a lovely day spent with my daughters and my dad. We went to Miller Farms and took a hayride around 180 acres of pick your own vegetables. I like getting my hands dirty, getting lots of good produce, and helping my daughters know where their food really comes from.playing at Miller Farms
Now we just have to process or store all the cabbage, carrots, onions, leaks, kale, swiss chard, peppers, and potatoes we brought home. Getting food from the fields doesn’t really help unless you know what to do with it.  Luckily, some things are really simple.
Potatoes will keep for months in a cool, dry, dark place.
Kale and swiss chard can easily be frozen. Blanching first will make it last longer.
A bit more involved by still simple is turning cabbage into sauerkraut. The live enzymes of lacto-fermented veggies are good for digestion (which in turn is good for clear thinking and balanced emotions). 
Here are the sauerkraut basics with more details available at
  • Cut, chop, or shred the cabbage leaving out any moldy, rotten or bruised bits.
  • Use a bowl, crock, or canning jar to pack the shredded cabbage.
  • Sprinkle a layer of cabbage 1/2 – 1″ thick.
  • Sprinkle a salt generously over the top of the cabbage.
  • Repeat cabbage, salt, cabbage, salt packing down with your fist or a tamper periodically.
  • Fill your container.
  • Put a plate or other covering over the top.
  • Weight the plate (a jar full of water works) to keep the cabbage below water level (water comes out of the cabbage but if there isn’t enough liquid to submerge the cabbage after a day or so, add some salt water that is about as salty as tears).
  • Check the ‘kraut every couple of days.
  • Eat it when you like it.
Put it in the fridge to slow down fermentation and make it last longer.
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Identifying Your Ideal Parent Coaching Clients

When you are very clear about what you offer and who can benefit from those services, you will enjoy your coaching work and be very good at it. Your clients will be satisfied and you will end your work day with gratitude and money.

Imagine, you actually get paid for having this much fun!

This Exercise helps you find those people you feel so good working with. Let’s look at clarifying your niche.

Who are YOUR ideal clients? Describe them answering questions like:

• What keeps them up at night? What pain would they pay to remove from their lives?

• How will parent coaching with you benefit them?

• How will they feel while working with you?

• How will they feel once you’ve helped them reach their goals?

• Who is energizing for you to work with?

• Describe your favorite clients or your most enjoyable friends. List 10 characteristics that make those relationships life-affirming, mutual, and fulfilling.

Congratulations! You’ve just described your ideal clients.

Now keep those clients in mind and answer the following questions:

• Where do your ideal clients live? What are their daily rhythms like?

• Where do they work? How much money do they make? Do they like their jobs?

• Where do their kids go to school? Home, private, or public school?

• What do they do for fun? Where? With whom?

• What clubs or groups do they belong to?


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How to Have a Peaceful Family

“I just want peace and harmony,” Amy says sounding close to tears. “But my son hits and throws things. He grabs toys from the other kids at school. I want him to have friends but I don’t want to invite other kids over for playdates. What if he  hits them or grabs or doesn’t share or wants everything his way? When I tell him to stop, he doesn’t. I’ve tried talking to him instead of spanking and time outs, but nothing works. I’m so embarrassed.”

Amy has the typical Young Child Protect Safely in Mother's Loving Embrace on Beachcomplaints of someone coming to me for parent coaching. She’s tried everything she can think of to get her child to stop doing the behavior that’s driving her crazy and to start doing the behavior she enjoys.

She’s coming to me because she wants me to tell her what to do to get the peace she longs for. She’s expecting new words – something to say and the right time and inflection to say it – to get her child to listen and obey.

And I help her. I help her get the peace she’s longing for from the inside out. I help her free up her own energy and creativity to find appropriate responses to her child. It’s not about applying a formula or using the right words. If it was, you could just go to the bookstore and buy any one of thousands of titles that promise you a better behaved child in a weekend or less.

It’s not that easy. Real change requires Amy, and you, to look within and learn about yourself as well as looking at your child. It’s a dance of inner work and outer work. A dance of looking within to notice your own feelings, stories, and triggers and learning to be with them without trying to change, blame, or figure yourself out. A dance of outer work setting boundaries, simplifying, and listening danced in ways that allow you more connection and effectiveness with your child.

Peace is an internal experience. It comes from meeting what is with an open mind and an open heart. Welcoming the experience of the moment, the peaceful response is to allow the experience to change us, to affect us, to alter our version of reality and perhaps of ourselves.

Peace is different than calmness. Calmness depends on the outside circumstances. Calm is your child behaving, not talking back, and doing what you say.

Peace is not dependent on the external circumstances. It is an internal experience. Peace starts within the parent.

Parent coacpadre e figlio sul molohing is often 80% about the parent and 20% about the child.

Together, you and I will help you learn skills to create peace within you and to respond peacefully to your child. There are practical, practicable skills you will learn with me.

As you practice the skills from our parent coaching sessions, you’ll experience peace starting within you and flowing out to your child. You will feel how this is different than calmness – deeper, more steadfast, and dependable.

You will have moments of success and moments of forgetfulness. As we work together you will journey through unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence. When you reach unconscious competence you have new habits fully ingrained and no longer even have to think about your response. It’s just become “natural”.

Curious to get started? Book a free consultation with me today.

30 minutes. Free. No strings attached. We get the feel of one another and decide if we enjoy working together so much that we want to do more of it. If so, then I’ll invite you to be  my client and you’ll be happy to say yes. Otherwise, we’ll just spend a pleasant 3/4 of an hour together focusing on you and your family, your goals and dreams, your challenges and what peace means to you.

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Teens and Online Privacy

Thanks to Amy Williams for her contribution. I’m delighted she sent me this article on Teens and Online Privacy (with the cool info graphic) to share with all of you.

Like Parent, Like Child

Lately, there has been chatter regarding our youth’s preoccupation with devices and how they are living a distracted life. Parents read stories about cyberbullying, Internet addiction, Smartphone obsessions, sexting, and the oversharing of personal information. Parents will eventually find themselves questioning a teen’s right to privacy in our hyper connected society.

However, we need to take a step back and consider our own relationship with devices. It is always easier to control our own behavior rather than correct a child’s. Ultimately, we want to carefully consider the message we are sending our children and teens.

8 Ways to Protect Your Kids from the Techno Trap

Here are 8 steps to approach technology that convey a positive relationship with our devices to our children:

Unplug during family time. It is important to power down during family meals, activities, and conversations. Give teens and children your whole attention and send the message that they are more valuable than a text message.

Avoid using your Smartphone while driving. We all know how dangerous it is to text or surf messages while behind the wheel. If you don’t follow your own advice, you can’t expect a child too.

Put down your phone and be active. Take a walk, pick up gardening, hobby or activity that doesn’t require battery life or data.

Limit the amount of time you are online. Display a healthy relationship with technology by shutting it down. Try to set aside time each day to relax or work without the soft glow of a screen.

Start open conversations about technology and Social Media issues. Ask questions and listen to your teen. If they notice you are not hiding concerns they might be willing to voice their opinions freely.

Avoid Social Media blowups. We all have “those” friends who have no filter and post anything they want. Often, a verbal fighting match erupts over taboo topics like politics, religion, homeschooling, and anti-vaccines. Lead by example and refrain from these types of posts.

Don’t expect your teen to avoid game apps, trendy apps, or online shopping if you frequent the sites. Lead by example and do as you say. Actions always speak louder than words.

Discuss and model Social Media etiquette. Be careful what you post online and make sure it’s always positive. Avoid racy or derogative comments. Above all, be mindful that your teen might see anything you post!



The full content of Amy’s article is available here

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Conscious Parenting Interview

I love it when people in the media spotlight are encouraging parents to wake up to more self-aware parenting. Dr Shefali talks about the importance of radical self-responsibility in the parent. We teach our children if it’s OK to be themselves or if they need to shape and mold their authentic voice to be acceptable.

This is no easy task.

How do we find the middle road that allows our children to be respectful members of society while also allowing them to be their full, big, expressive, emotional selves? The good news is, it’s possible. The better news is, in order to do it for our kids we have to trust it’s possible for ourselves. And the very best news is you can’t do that with theoretical knowledge; you can only do it experientially. That means you have to trust yourself. I can show you how. Book a free consult with me today.

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Chores and Kids – How to Get the Help You Want Without Bribes or Arguments

Every parent I know would like their kids to be helpful, respectful, and responsible. And most parents are frustrated that their kids aren’t more of those things more of the time. In fact, I often hear lamentation that kids are self-centered and lazy.

Want to turn it around?
Want your kids to do more of the picking up around the house than you do?
Want your kids to value shared spaces and learn to care for not only their things but yours as well?

Then tune in to the free webinar Sunday 3/29 at 3pm Eastern, noon Pacific. We’ll talk about all this and more. Join us!

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Who Thinks About Bullies?

When we think of bullying, we most often think of victims. We think of the kids that are getting picked on and pushed around. We may feel helpless, sad, or rageful that it happens at all and that we don’t know how to stop it.

Next we might think of the bullies. We might shame or judge the people who are hurting others, thinking they need to be punished. Or we might pity them thinking that they’ve been mistreated and they are just passing on what they have learned.

Rarely do we think of the parents. When we do, we think that they should stop bullying. If we are the parents, we usually think we should stop it. We have all the responsibility and yet can feel such frustration that we don’t have the power to control our children or what happens to them. We can’t keep them safe. We can’t make them behave. bullying

Reactions to bullying are often intense. We’re usually sure who’s doing wrong (bully) and who’s being wronged (victim) and what we’re supposed to do (judge, punish, and stop it).

I’m going to suggest a different way. I’m going to suggest you fire yourself from the tiring and thankless jobs of being the judge, jury, and police (knowing what’s right and wrong, deciding on punishment, and enforcing your will).  I’m going to suggest that you take your desire for peace and fairness and do something that actually works.

Learn more at the free webinar on Tuesday, March 31 at 8pm Eastern, 5pm Pacific. Register for this awesomely informative action packed (or at least insightful) opportunity below.

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Want more ease and harmony? Do this Mediation for Compassion.

When my child or I am upset, I feel a strong urge to figure out what’s wrong and fix it. So great can this urge to assign blame and begin changing behavior be for me, that it takes a conscious effort to remember my tools. Compassionate listening is the very best tool in my parent coaching toolbox. It’s deceptively simple yet very powerful.

Meditation for Compassionate Listening

This mediation is inspired and strongly influenced by my training in Inner Empathy by Jerry Donoghe. Learn more about the great work in nondualism and parts work going on at

I invite you to try it for yourself.

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